try { I know that there is something I love there and something I miss but I’m just in the wrong place. The modern world makes it difficult to find genuine connections in a sea of never ending interactions. My church is full of warm and loving people who work very hard for the church and love Jesus. Yes, only comments I’ve heard in ages that help me feel a little comfort. Jokes. The feeling of belonging is something we all strive for, whether we know it or not. And even then I don’t feel like I belong. People tell me I need to “snap out of it” but I feel like if I do then I will lose sight of what is on the other side of that wall. Not without new elements though. Why It Happens and How to Cope, The Power of Misfits: How to Find Your Place in a World You Don’t Fit In. At all. Thank you for reading. The next time a friend is telling a story, try just listening to them instead of telling your own. Sometimes I feel like this is all just a simulation and I need to wake up. END OF RANT could go on forever. you’ve describe my situation and being completely. It’s better if you can’t even try then the pain is filled. If I close my eyes I can feel it there. It’s the feeling that you were meant to be here, and whatever your purpose may be is intrinsically connected to the place where you belong. And recently I had an epiphany: I don't feel like I belong to a family. I moved back and I moved in with my daughter. Well, there are many theories, but in the end it comes down to what we all choose to believe in. In your family, your life, or this world? It feels like ultimately all endeavour is meaningless as is the void that we all inhabit, I understand the point of life being a journey and there never being a true goal but if that’s the case; a journey with no defined end can reach its end at any point, which ultimately deems the length irrelevant which also then compromises the point of the journey itself. I’m tired of being in a universe where I don’t belong. thank god there is someone else out there who understands. My sister is the "good girl" she never does anything wrong in my parents eyes. Finally, it might just be your ambitions. I can’t talk to anybody because obviously I’m the only one I know who feels like none of this is real. I’m a Deep Thinker and Old Soul. You don’t have to make major changes to who you are as a person to finally be with the people you want. Not enough understanding within me…, It hurts to say this but I’m all of those and it hurts but thank you for posting this you are a great person even though I’m crying as I type this. But this article helped to calm me down, thank you. Actually i have only met one other like me . I also feel like my parents always compares me with my two sisters. The book is available on Amazon – If this makes sense to anyone . People decided the value of a thing and others go along with it ripping up the ground for something so unimportant. I couldn’t agree more. I used to suck it all up until I locked myself in a room until I could shed all the negativity. I don’t see it impact. I too, often feel like I don’t belong. The present day circumstances have been extremely difficult to deal with as it seems hypocrisy has become the way of the world and there is nothing good to look towards if people are involved. It’s alright to feel shy. But for many of us, that crucial feeling of belongingness doesn’t really exist. I so feel this way. I'm just so completely different than my family. It can feel a little hopeless at times, like you’ll never really find a place where you’ll finally feel at home but the good news is this feeling doesn’t last forever. And I am worried of a world that seems to be being put in smaller and smaller boxes while we lose more and more options to react. Has anyone had this? I mean yeah we joke around at times and laugh but mostly they are quite and boring. I feel like they're complete strangers and even though they try to get me to hang out with them I just don't feel comfortable doing that. And its only getting worse. Do you want people who inspire you to work and achieve and accomplish, or would you rather surround yourself with people who are happy with what they have? Old Soul? Did any of the above-described things ring true for you? Laughter. I’ve tried finding things to be passionate about and I have many but as far as I can tell they function as nothing more than a distraction from the bigger picture. your intentions. Hack Spirit is a blog by Lachlan Brown and shares practical tips and strategies to help you live a more mindful and awesome life. i might finally be happy to live the rest of my life if i have you, same for you as well. I am evaluating All this. I’m not trying to play the violin here..but I’m an only child, 36 year old, no family that cares, and I can count two friends on my hand. } This feeling is odd. Because even if you're the one person in the world who really, truly, absolutely has no place, you're still going to be stuck with you. I don’t belong here. _g1.classList.remove('lazyload'); What are the exact elements that you feel would make you feel like you belong? I’m so sorry for your PTSD, hugs to you and your lady.. tell her she is an angel for being with you. I feel like I am an adult orphan. Sometimes it can just be a lifetime of subtle pains and problems leading to you feeling like you could never really rely on your family to be there when you needed them. So Much Pain Hard to see any Joy around. This eBook has everything you need to know about the predictable patterns that make a man fall in love. All I hear are complaints from people (those I know and those I don’t). And let those thoughts hold me down and back from what I wanted. Although socialization and fostering deep bonds are two great ways to feel like you belong somewhere, you won’t ever really feel like you’re a part of something bigger than yourself if you don’t work on your insecurities. It’s not a choice we would have made, which makes it … I feel depressed and my lungs feel painful because of the weight of this emotion. I’ve already been realizing all of this. Moreover, it’s not a bad thing at all and is, in fact, an indication of increased awareness and sensitivity. In this article I’m going to go over what it means to belong, and why some of us just don’t feel it. while I’m sure some can be attributed to my abusive, isolated childhood and the rough time I’ve had in my adult years, I honestly don’t think these are the sole reasons. If you’re feeling hopeless or a little lonely, know that you’re not the only one. Learning Mind does not provide medical, psychological, or any other type of professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. You don’t have to be the life of the party to make friends. I was abused by my ex-Husband and so I moved away from this area. If you’re still feeling this way despite the fact that other people are trying to get you out of your shell, take a little initiative to socialize instead of waiting for this feeling of belongingness to drop on your lap. I feel like I’m just a ball of energy that wants to be free of this constrictive body. Introverts and people who are just naturally quiet may have a harder time finding their pack simply because they haven’t really tried engaging so much. The feeling of belonging stems primarily from our family life, and whether or not your parents and family did a good job of making you feel like you would receive unconditional love and a constant home. Why is it not, that this world is being taking away from us? It’s MY path! It just goes over their heads. If you are significantly more intelligent than everyone around you, then there’s no one around you who can help you think outside the box. I call it feeling un-tethered but it’s also feeling distant, apart from others, feeling like there is no reason really to remain in this mortal form. This habit creates a discord between how people perceive us and who we really are. I really long to know where I truly belong. She is a deep thinker and socially anxious introvert who writes about human behavior and personality, the nature of introversion, the concept of belonging, and social anxiety, hoping to help those who struggle with similar issues as she does. I don’t feel like I don’t belong to the church where I live, but I believe in what it teaches. It feels like someone is waiting for me somewhere or even watching me over the years. But he's a 7 month old pup. "Why do I feel like I don't belong with my family?" You went through a lot. If your so-called “friends” leave you alone, you’ll always have people who stay — then you’ll know where you truly belong. We don’t have any children, which makes us the “odd family out” among all of our friends. I just started a job where I work with hundreds of people, and needles to say, I have yet to connect with anyone. Your current mood . Lachlan graduated with a psychology degree in 2012. Ok so my family is ok I guess . Ok, skipping to the point, please listen to me. Unpacking these roadblocks will teach you to connect with people better and make it easier to find a place you can really call home. People pay tons of money for a gym when a walk is better. Use this time to get in touch with yourself and loved one you are with. Maybe a reason why you feel like you don’t belong is because you’re just not trying hard enough. I agree with you Kimberly. My thing is, I feel like I don’t belong where I am: I want to go to where I used to live as a child, but I know I don’t belong to the past anymore. Politics are at the center of every single thing and regardless of where you stand on them you are ostracized and belittled into obscurity for not being enough X or being too much Y because nobody respects others anymore. If you are feeling like a misfit, you may want to read my recent articles that provide some guidance for coping with this emotional state: When the flood of comments came in response to this article, I realized that there were far more people who felt like they didn’t belong here, in this world and society, than I had imagined. I see that women and girls have always been the oppressed ones in society forever. Especially my dad. What matters to them doesn’t matter to me because it has nothing to do with appreciating life (not in a quote unquote tree hugger way… I do care about the environment though). If you feel like reaching out to people isn’t the problem, consider that your weakness might be in reeling it in. We would love to hear your thoughts on this. Showering your friends with too much affection or acting overeager may come off as overbearing, making you a little off-putting. Old souls often feel like they don’t belong here, especially when growing up. i think we live together, not in a relationship but just as friends living together because we understand each other. Our personal values shape the people we are, and if we constantly find ourselves disagreeing with the actions and thoughts of those who should be our friends, then we’ll never feel like we’re in the right place. Listen to your instincts and stop creating an idealized version of what friendship is. Just far too many. My wife is from a large family and also has a large group of friends. I’m so sick of present day society and just want to escape from it all. Its depressing as hell though, I’ll tell you that. Entertainment is all the people care about. var _g1; Lachlan Brown “It’s not simple stage fright or performance anxiety,” writes Harvard psychologist Amy Cuddy in her book Presence: Bringing Your Boldest Self to Your Biggest Challenges.“Rather, it’s the deep and sometimes paralyzing belief that we have been given something we didn’t earn and don’t deserve and that at some point we’ll be exposed.”The first and most important thing you need to know about that feeling – the feeling that yo… I relate to that song so much in a way, but in another way I abhor it because it sounds like a mass murderer’s anthem too (“let the bodies hit the floor”) which is so not me…but the idea that it’s SOCIETY that has something wrong with it is the strongest theme for me. Some individuals don’t simply consider themselves different from the rest – they actually have different tastes, ways of thinking, and priorities in life. I refuse all drugs. I came across this post while looking into what it means/feels like to truly belong. But extremely hard to connect on a ( real ) level. While childhood trauma and other adverse childhood experiences can leave permanent negative marks on our sense of self, you don’t necessarily have to experience anything “huge” in your childhood to be affected negatively by it. We are all struggling in some areas of our life even if we don’t say it to anybody. (yes, I’ve met Old Souls.). Is there a group where like minded people can talk? German Shepherd (Alsatian) so he's a big boy. I feel slightly nerdy if I dare admit, like I am into reading, starting up businesses and never really drink unless its one glass per week, if that but hardly anything as drinking doesnt really do anything for me and the whole social scene with groups of girls I just don't get, like I feel I am some strange weirdo and always leave early not wanting to be the same as them. Feeling like you don’t truly belong is something everyone goes through. So, I’m truly alone. What Is Your Mental Age and How Does It Define You? Your insights are spot on. I just don't feel like I belong anywhere. Oh so you can dunk a basketball, sing a beautiful song, drive a car in a circle for hours… Let’s give you millions to live on. _g1 = document.getElementById('g1-logo-mobile-inverted-source'); I sleep so that I can stay away from the world it feels like I shouldn’t be in. It was also a big relief because once you realize why you feel like you don’t belong, you’ll understand that there’s nothing wrong with you. I love writing practical articles that help others live a mindful and better life. I just feel like my soul is from, or belongs to, another realm/world. But to me, the only thing that makes this world so ugly is humans who don’t have a clue. Is your solution to feeling like you belong realistic, healthy, and doable? I know I’m different but when I tell people that they think I am being full of myself. What do you do when you feel like you belong? I just can’t bare the thought of moronic assholes and back-stabing traitors and lying smart-asses and generally all those selling their mother out for some gift of the system, I can’t stand them inheriting the earth and driving her to disaster. All these side effects of being an empath can also provoke a sense of detachment. And I have to admit I feel like the world I belong to isn’t so far out of my reach, and yet, it might as well be on the other side of the Universe. Just know that you are not alone. I'm a bit miserable and I can't put a finger on it. Everyone says come join the conversation but I cant. To avoid seeming awkward or even arrogant, loosen up by asking people questions instead of talking the lead. I spend most of my time by myself and I have a girlfriend (live in). I’ve felt like this my entire life. Dang buddy, are you my son!!!!!!! Im here but don’t fit in I would like to meet people in the same situation. I just don’t know what to do or think anymore, I want to leave this universe. idk. 63 cent a day can feed these animals for a month, what about the kid eating out of the trash can, getting beaten by parents, foster parents etc. The closest I’ve come to any relief, was retreating to the mountains.